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Re: Afraid to continue research - need advice
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I am of a simular situation....I am tri-racial..my mother mixed white/indian and my father black, but for me all the un-acceptance has been from the relatives on my father's side ( in Georgia) that I have discovered over the years of my research. My parents married in 1968, I was born in 1969 North Dakota and my parents divorced after my sisters birth in 1971. I started searching for my father and family from this side in 1995 and it wasn't until November of 2004 that I found him. He replied within a week of a letter sent and shortly after I recieved a phone call from the eldest of 3 half-sisters from his 2nd marriage. I talked to my father 2 weeks after my conversation with her. My father never wrote or called me again and me and Erica continued to talk for several weeks about the family history and getting to know one another...she also emailed me tons of pictures of all the sisters, but she too has also drifted away and does not answer or return calls. The last I heard from her was an email notifying me of our father's sister Doris' passing this past September. Speaking of whom, Doris had known about my sister and I since the day we were born, knew where we lived, etc., but not once did she make an effort to contact us all those years. Along the way I've also found a few cousin's from this side (descended of my GG-Grandfather's sister) who didn't want to contact me but rather had a co-worker get all the info they could from me about their ancestors and even more they have always lived in the very county our ancestors had since 1870!! It is ironic that all the new found cousins (30+) I've met on-line from my maternal side welcome me with open arms and to this day we are in constant contact and share...I share and they recipricate. They remember me at my birthday's and during holidays, etc.
I say research, research, and research some more your family history!! Regardless of what may be around the corner, it is your right to know where you come from. Take it as it comes and don't let worry or "what if's" stand in your way! We would love to assist any way we can!!
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