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Ways To Handle.....

This new topic was the suggestion of EW. See her post at

How have some of you handled the family members who just don't wanna act right or do right....the procrastinators, non-paying members, the schemers, etc.

My response to EW's post:

Hi EW,
I am reluctant to say that these types of problems just goes with the territory, but I too hope that there are other effective strategies to curtail this problem.

In our past reunion, it has been stressed in bold in the family letters that we will not be able to accept payments at the door. However, that sentence seems to fall on death ears. I think a lot of people believe that since they are dealing with family - flesh and blood - then there are many exceptions to the rule, regardless of how their actions cause a lot of inconvenience as well as headaches.

I do have one strategy though - encourage many family members as possible to help in the planning. Never leave the planning up to the same folk all the time. Once many family members get their feet "wet" in planning reunions, they'll see how inconsiderate and inconvenient it is to be a procrastinator and ignoring the deadlines that have been set. This MIGHT work. MIGHT. :)

I personally believe that MANY more families would have reunions if people didn't make it so hard on the reunion planners by not doing their financial obligations in a timely manner. One of my cousins planned a reunion on her father's side several years ago. It was their first. Although the first reunion was successful, the planning of it caused her to NEVER wanna chair another reunion again because people were just not considerate. Needless to say, that was their only reunion.


18 Dec 2002 :: 14 Nov 2008
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