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Re: Afraid to continue research - need advice

Hey Barbara,

Welcome to the Afrigeneas Family! We'll claim you, and be glad to have you!

My family had one situation that did not turn out well, but then sort of calmed down. We also had a good situation that was wonderful.

A close relative was in Hospice and a person we have always known claimed to be his child. We were ready to claim this person until the person made requests for money on behalf of our relative. We gave the money and then when we contacted our relative he said he didn't need the money and didn't know why the request had been made, and didn't get the money. It made us suspicious. But when our relative died, this person handled all the funeral arrangements and gave a moving eulogy.

We don't know the "truth", but we tend to feel we're probably related. If the person hadn't inserted money into the initial contact, we'd be more confident about establishing a relationship. As it is, we'll always be open to finding out more about this person, just wary.

Our good situation happened when I called my grandfather's family he hadn't spoken to in over 45 years. It turns out they were looking for us. . .we were the lost branch and they couldn't have been nicer to us. We've exchanged info and pictures and intend to visit soon.

It sounds like you should have plenty of proof of who you are: your parents marriage certificate, your birth certificate, etc. Collect your proof and write a letter and follow up with a call. Tell them how you are related and that you'd like to meet your Dad's family to learn about your history.

Good Luck and let us know how it goes.


18 Dec 2002 :: 14 Nov 2008
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