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Re: Afraid to continue research - need advice
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Hollis is right. It is important to acknowledge family. I think your hesitancy is understandable. Rejection is harder to take from family and loved ones, but Richard has a point. You may be pleasantly surprised to find you are welcomed. They may have looked for you! (possible)
You really have more information than some people have. You have a name, parents' names, place of birth (state, county), US Navy service (military record), and a death certificate with a place of burial. What you haven't said is whether or not you asked your mother what she knew about your father. She may have known the name of a sibling, aunt/uncle or other relative he may have visited (or who may have visited him). Any bit of information, no matter how small it may seem, could help put the pieces of the family together. She may have some pictures of him that his family would love to see. If nothing else, they would be good for 'sharing' when you meet that first relative. [Believe me, pictures can be a good ice breaker!]
You asked about starting your research.
Locate his parents' death record. Depending upon the area of death, they could also have an obituary. Record the names of listed relatives. Once you have names and locations, you can look for contact information.
Marriage Records --> Married names of female relatives, maiden names of their children.
Census research ---> Family groups
His parents would also be listed in the 1920 census and, perhaps, the 1910 and 1900 census records.
There are many books and online articles on how to begin, including one right here on this site. When you get stuck, just post here for help. There are many that are more than willing to help.
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