I have a similar situation. In tracing my ancestors slaveowner's family I was confused because it seemed this lady, Rachel Keeling Row, was married to two men with the last name Farish.
I finally figured it out. Two brothers, each gave their daughters the exact same name, Rachel Keeling Row. If that was not confusing enough the two women (who are cousins) married brothers: Charles Tod Farish and William Hiter Farish.
To add to the confusion, Charles Tod Farish's daughter (who was a Farish) married another Farish.
I finally figured out their family tree, but I still have not figured out how my ancestors came to be living on their property. I guess that will take me another 4 years
Were you ever able to resolve the questions you posted
"way back when" ?