In my SLATER family there is an uncle who found it easier, at least on the surface, to "pass". In about 1915 he removed from the State of Georgia seeking a more economically secure life. He married and the couple decided not to have children for fear of "being found out". He did remain in touch with family BUT could only be in physical touch for a time by meeting prople in the City of Chicago away from the "safety" of the small town where they chose to live. St somr point the Chicago visits rnded but communication continurd by letters.

I have some of the letters written by uncle. They reveal a man deprived of children, grieving the loss of his birth family and ever living in fear of "being found out" When he deceased the wife made her way to Georgia and was enveloped by the family she had only known previously by worn letters...

Economic safety, social advantage equaled emotional peril in his instance.