I can't find grandma. That's g-g-g grandma, she died in 1898 in Bismarck, ND. She's not buried next to grandpa (d. 1888). I contacted the cemetary and they said that its the only grave (grandpa's) so she didn't get buried in the same spot. Now they had money for a headstone and a lot, so I am very confused. I checked for funeral home records, none for that time. I have an obit, so I know there was a funeral. I checked with the church whose pastor presided at the funeral, no records. When she died, ggg grandma (Virginia Comer) had a person handling her estate (no will) until her son came to settle things--he ended up paying about $3,000 cash on all the property they owned so I'm sure he could have had a grave and headstone for his mama. I can't find anything in the legal paper settling her property about where she is buried. So I'm trying to figure out if the man who handled her estate left any records. One of the men who wrote the book African Americans in North Dakota, asked me to consider that she would have had her remains sent back to Virginia. That would mean that she would have probably been returned to a slave cemetary if she wanted to be with her family. I just find that a stretch at that time could you trust that things would be handled properly? I checked cemetary records in other parts of Bismarck, Spokane, and Idaho (where other family members lived). So far no luck. Any suggestions?