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In Response To: WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN---- ()

Hi Cynthia,
The needles are sticking me in the side reading your e-mail because I feel your pain! Oh, do I feel your pain!!

Have you heard the term, "The devil is busy"? I'm sure you have. Well, that term definitely seems to come to mind when you are planning an event such as a reunion for "family people". We would LOVE to think that all of our family members are kind, honest, supportive, etc., but if we believe that, we are certainly living in a fairy tale!

The devil is always going to be busy, unfortunately. We will always have to deal with cheap, uncooperative, selfish people. We just gotta learn an effective way of not letting them run up our blood pressure. When you come across those people, just whisper to yourself, "I am going to pray for you because you certainly need prayer." And trust me, they do need prayer even more!

Having said that...I have one, two or maybe three suggestions of how to keep your blood pressure down - effectively dealing with the cheap, selfish relatives that you WILL encounter. At our reunion, we've started to use tickets. Every family member receive tickets for the event they paid for. We've placed people at the door to take up the tickets. No ticket, no entry. Simple as that. We place everyone's tickets in labeled envelopes for easier distribution at the reunion during our registration hours.

Another way that we "controlled" the freeloaders is by nametags. At one of our reunions, we urged everyone to wear their name tag at every event, as their name tag was their "ticket". When a family member pays, a computer-generated name tag was printed for him/her and everyone in their household who are attending. Then, at the name tag, no entry. This way may be more effective at a picnic since there is no door...unless it's an indoor picnic, which are becoming increasingly popular here in the South for obvious reasons.

I know this might sound like a "military-style" of dealing with this, but the "devious ones" leave us no choice. It is not fair to the paying family members for people to just come in and help themselves without paying. I believe once you put a "check system" in place, family members will get used to it and know why it is done. Maybe even the freeloaders won't attempt their "dirty deeds" anymore. Maybe. We hope.


18 Dec 2002 :: 14 Nov 2008
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