Hang in there. Even the "seasoned" organizers endure what you are going through. Lord knows I have! One thing I've learned is that you truly have to exercise a great deal of patience. People will be late no matter how hard you stress the deadlines. There will be people who will pop up at the reunion, fully knowing that they should have informed the committee that they were attending. I have even endured family members who cheated the family...they only pay for 3 to attend, but ended up bringing 10 without trying to pay, thinking that they could sneak the entire 10 in there. I even had a young relative who brought his best friend, who was Chinese, to the reunion. We were not informed that his friend would be attending. Of course the relative told us, "He's just gonna hang around in the hotel and not participate." Well, needless to say, his friend was right there in the banquet and helping himself to the food (buffet style). What behooves me is did this relative AND his parents know that his friend was going to stand out like a loud suit, and we would have noticed that we were lied to during registration! Oh my! The things I could share with you, but dealing with irresponsible and uncooperative people comes with the territory in planning family reunions. The greatest joy definitely comes from bringing your family together, enabling many people to get to know each other and enabling many people to feel and claim a connection that so many desire. For that, the ancestors will be smiling down on you! And they will certainly be proud that you did not let the "bad apples" in the family prevent the entire family from getting together, a tradition that should always continue.
In due time, more people will start to come around and assist with the planning. The problem is, they don't come as fast as we want them to. I have that problem! LOL At the reunions, keep stressing the importance of having more and more family members to help plan the reunion and stress that it is of dire importance if this wonderful tradition will continue. Also, PRAY!
Hope that helps!