in our family. for each chapter(state) that has lost someone, someone from that chapter stands up, states the persons name and then lights a candle in their honor.

when it comes to jersey in 2007, i was thinking about using the family tree (the the children will create) and remove the persons name from the tree, and add it the the 'sun'(that is above shinning on the tree) kinda like, you are still with us, but just in a higher form..is that corny??