Family Reunion Forum
Re: need help
In Response To: need help ()
If it was me, I would tell him that if he wants a cookout on the first night, he has to take full responsibility in the planning of it - finances, food, location, cleaning, etc., and the reunion committee will treat it as an optional side event, not part of the already-set itinerary and fully sponsored by him, and it will be for those who want to participate, as long as it does not conflict with the scheduled events.
If HIS cookout will conflict with the other things going on, then the committee should stand their ground and go ahead with the plans already set. If he gets angry and leave, then I would let him leave and hope for the best. When you encounter those types of family members and they threaten to steer others away, some people that he/she plans to steer away just may be aware of his/her foolish ways, and may not listen. Kindly send word of the situation and the ultimatim that was placed on the committee, and let them decide if they want to listen to a person who is not rational.
My family and I encountered a similar situation. One family member joined the committee after they had already had several meetings and had agreed upon an itinerary. Well, this family member did not like the plan for the first night and wanted the family to use his idea. The committee did not change what they had already planned, and this family member tried to steer away his more-immediate family members (parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, first cousins) from the event. Not only that, this person even planned his own event scheduled during the same time as one of our events. It was attended by some of his more-immediate family members, but it did not affect our reunion at all, since they were only a VERY small fraction of the entire family. After seeing the pictures and hearing the numerous family members talk about the good time they had interacting with "new" and "old" family members, some of them wished they had not listened and been with the rest of the family. My point is....if people choose to listen to an unrational person, then they will lose out in one way or the other.
Just My Opinion,