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Re: Reunion Crashers!
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Every year someone puts a posting on the Reunion about 'free loaders', uppity non paying family and money hardship. I have been reading this string and and said I would not reply to any posting. I struggled to do 1 family reunion for mine. 2 other cousins supported my efforts and told other family members that we would not beg them to come, but the 3 of us and our families would be doing this. 2 weeks before the planned reunion get together my mother called me and said she would not be attending because she did not want to be bothered with all of those people. She did come with the encouragement of a sister. Now she always supports anything my sister does. I can't tell you how horribly hurtful I felt with that phone call. But myself and 2 cousins kept moving forward. We knew 2 aunties weren't going to participate, but that was ok. I got friends to help me cook and they kept me pumped up. Now I had taken a trip to Africa and spent a lot of money on 'giveaway items' to encourage those 'naysayers' to change their minds. I can't tell you how much money I personally was out of. Well when there's something free and especially from THE MOTHERLAND, more attended. One of my supportive cousins donated meat and reunion shirts. I want to tell you I didn't get money from many cousins until a 2 weeks before the reunion picnic. Some never paid the cousin for the t-shirts and others felt that when I charged $50 per household address it was ok to invite friends, foster children, people who they met on the street that said we were related, to the picnic. After all it was going to be PLENTY of food. Y'all come on out and meet family.' I was happy to finally have 1 reunion but unhappy to realize I had to 'bribe' folks and spend so much money to have a good time. Oh they said to me-we had a good time and we're going to come to the next reunion. NOT!! I can't afford to host reunions. We have not had another one. I realized no one other than the 2 cousins and finally a sister is going to step up to the plate and do what the 3 of us struggled, and manipulated folks to do. I even had a cousin tell me,' My Mom said she is going to start to be involved more with family". I asked this cousin, 'when are you going to organize the next one." She said, "Girl I don't have the time or money to do that." That was 7 years ago and there hasn't been another attempt by anyone to try to organize another one. I have no sympathy for reunion crasher's. They know their house note, car payment and utility bills must be paid in order to continue their way of life. They know the cost of food, gas, rental of halls everything cannot be paid for with the family reunion payments. They know payments pass the due dates will cause cancellations. What I have noticed is they feel that-'Aw girl we can stay at this person's house or when we get there we can stay in so and so's room at the hotel'. We're just going to be there 1 nite.' They don't bother to ask in advance permission to do so. At another reunion, not mine, there was this cousin who is a regular at the casino's. They greet her by her 1st name. She didn't pay until the day she got to the reunion and said, cousin so and so knew I was coming. Then she was angry when there was no goody bag with her name on it. And then she complained about the food. White Castle is open 24 Hours. (Lord have mercy!)If a reunion crasher can show up and embarrass the organizer's by bullying them into free everything, then they should be grown enough to be told and understand, "You have to pay to play" in front of everybody.

18 Dec 2002 :: 14 Nov 2008
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