this is my last comment on this and to all. Like the lady said--somebody has to be the 'iron face'. Family will hurt you more than any stranger. What you may not know, somebody has probably talked to the 'big ten' about this but they will choose to ignore this until they are embarrassed. New rules should be set in place NOW and put in writing in your next reunion newsletter. Then privately I would let the 'big ten' know that it won't be tolerated from this day forward. Sure they will get angry and talk about you. But you know in the end they will respect you, the rules and family Values or STAY HOME. You can't go to a bank and pay them when you want to borrow their money for expensive stuff. YOU GOT TO PAY TO PLAY.
NOW I'VE GOT TO GO TAKE MY BLOOD PRESSURE PILLS.