AfriGeneas Brick Wall Forum
A Crack in The Cousin Wall
I guess this may be a place to post this one cause it is a brick wall that is cracking a little. I have a cousin from my father's side who is the ONLY one that I can ask questions and possibly get tidbits of her knowledge. Believe me picking at this brain is a challenge. She is not old--in her early 60's, but it seems as if all of of us 1st born children have emotional scars. Nothing that I know of that would be physical abuse, just mental happened to any of us that I know of at this time, but you never know. Although I am beginning to think something physical may have happened because she and her mother were not close. Her mother, the last living sibling, died 3 years ago, so the knowledge, papers and records are in boxes in a store room and at her granddaughters home. I finally was given the oppurtunity to look at a small amount which included pictures. I found some pictures that this cousin had no idea that was in this 1 photo album. Now this book was falling apart. One prized picture is of our mutual grandmother. She didn't know it was in there. What I am beginning to understand is this. For me, I don't have an emotional attachment to these pictures. There are things that happened to all of us that is very hard to relive and talk about. When you try to get a crack open in these brick walls, try to find pictures or information that will bring a smile and not a frown. Keep to yourself what is to painful to talk about. Somewhere down the road a crack in the wall will start opening when they realize that it's better to know about the pass, than to try and keep it buried. It's almost like having group therapy and not paying those enormous prices to a therapist.