AfriGeneas Adoption Forum
Re: Happy Adoption Reunion
In Response To: Happy Adoption Reunion ()
I was very touched by your story and found several points to identify with you even though I am not adopted. It is so wonderful that you had a positive outcome in your reunion with your birth mother's family. So good that you have so many "new" siblings and other relatives. God bless you all and I wish you happiness in your marriage. You deserve it!
My parents were never married, either, and my dad "left" when I was 18 months old. I was born in Oakland, CA, by the way. My dad had a drinking problem, also, and died at 75 when all of the various ill effects caught up with him. Like you, I got on a plane to go meet him for the first time with a great mixture of emotions. First time I flew in a plane, too.
Upon meeting several other relatives (some wary) over the next several years, they, too, commented on how after first laying eyes on me, they knew I "was a Walker". I've been told how much I resemble a certain cousin and/or a certain aunt. One of my half-sisters I grew up with took one look at my dad's photo and she was so surprised at my resemblance to him. She said "all these years I thought you looked like Mom, but YOU look like HIM".
Oh, and I also identified strongly with the words of the Supremes' song, "Love Child" (afraid, ashamed, misunderstood). Being the only Walker and visibly lighter than any of my 9 half-siblings, I stuck out like a sore thumb...or so I thought. From time to time, a classmate or boyfriend would ask who left me on my mother's doorstep. For a while as a kid, I wondered if I WERE adopted. We didn't exactly grow up in a tenement slum but we were poor for much of my childhood. My mother, however, made sure that we had a nice bag lunch, clothing, shoes, hair ribbons, everything we needed to look like the other kids, and none of my classmates even suspected that we were on welfare. We've got a great Mom.
My reunion with most of my Walker relatives, beginning in 1991, when I first met my dad, has been heartwarming. Sorry for the long-winded reply. Thank you for sharing.