AfriGeneas Adoption Forum
Re: Why Doesn't White Adopt Black
In Response To: Re: Why Doesn't White Adopt Black ()
Regina---What was your response to this "We brought home our little brown baby. So, it's not always issues of black or white. There are issues within the races too. I do remember a family member telling us, "Don't bring home no ugly, black baby." Wow, that hurt!"
I was adopted into a mixed race family & I've never been accepted by the White side of my mother's family. Things have been so bad that I've been overlooked at being invited to family gatherings while my adoptive sibling who is biracial but looks white was invited. The pain at this is indescribable. Thankfully God has blessed me with a loving husband who accepts me no matter what. He sees things for how they are.
I think you should have set that Family member straight. Ignorance like that will only hurt you and your child. People say all sorts of things like that and don't "mean any harm" but harm is caused. The same thing goes for all of the good/bad hair discussions. It's ignorant and hurtful.
I also have to ask the question, "Have African American couples or people seeking to adopt not adopted because the child was too dark." I can't fathom that. If that were true than I say great for the child because anyone who would make a decision like that isn't fit to be a parent.
Adoption should be about providing a loving, secure home for a child who doesn't have one. Adoption shouldn't be about trying to get a skin match.