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Re: Birth mother kidnaps her twins.
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I too have mixed emotions. I read te two paper articles and most of the Nancy Grace interview. There's so much involved in this case from what I can read.
When adoptive parents bring babies/children home who have not been released of their guardanship, there is always a risk. You tell yourslef, that it won't happen to you, but someone has to be that 1 out of whatever. I must say that I have been "one." On December 11,1991 my husband and I brought home a baby girl whose guardianship had not been given up. We thought about the risk factor, but wanting to be parents outweighed that. While at home alone with the newborn baby on December 27, I get a call from our social worker. We became the statistic. The birthmom changed her mind. Her family had agreed to help her with the baby. It was one of the most devasting things in my life. I called my husband, my family, my friends and kept saying why. After the initial shock, I had to put myself in the birthmom's place. The "law" said I had to give her back, but I had to also find in my heart that "we" had to return her and that would be what I would want an adoptive mom to do for me.
My heart began to heal. A friend gave me something to think about. She said I had to move on and allow my heart and mind to heal because if I let it all overtake me, I could possibly become unstable and being unsable would not make me a good canidate for the next baby that we could make ours. That was something that kept me going. We did receive another child, who is celebrating her 15th birthday today. BJ, I feel you on the "waiting period" My husand and I sat on eggshells that last week of the waiting period.
The kidnapping case involves so much and I'm sure that there are things that we won't know or hear about publicly. Again, my emotions are mixed and I pray for everyone involved. It's going to be a long road for them all
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