AfriGeneas Adoption Forum
Re: Why Doesn't White Adopt Black
In Response To: Why Doesn't White Adopt Black ()
I personally believe that all children need to be loved and parented regardless of the color of the children or the parents. When people adopt across the lines there are pro and con issues. I feel that it is a must that the child receives a full history, background, culture of his/her own race when growing up.
Oddly, so many children go unadopted because of their race. It's not always about whether a white family should adopt a black child. Whether a black family should adopt a white child. There are issues where African American adoptive families have turned down adoptions because the child was not the color of either of the parents.
For instance, when our adoption agency called us, the social worker was giving us a description of the child that they had waiting for us. She was described as a dark brown baby. She said that the agency wanted to know if her color was okay? It was something that I had not considered. I was sitting there holding the phone trying to figure out why she asked me that question. You see, the social worker at the agency was a white woman, our social worker was black. So, the description was coming from the white social worker. She asked us if we wanted to see the baby, I immediately said yes. All I wanted was a baby girl. It did not matter if she was brown, light, dark or whatever.
We saw the baby a couple of days later and brought her home and that's where she as been for the last almost 15 years. We brought home our little brown baby. So, it's not always issues of black or white. There are issues within the races too. I do remember a family member telling us, "Don't bring home no ugly, black baby." Wow, that hurt!
Sorry, I got a little off, but that's the way it was.